Many are exchanging(at least giving if not getting) gifts and wishes today. A day for Love, many will propose, many will win, some will not. Some will make while some will break!
We are yet to ascertain the exact reasons for this feeling. Any form of Love is blind as it defies logic and sometimes denies to accept reality. It can evoke extreme emotions that would have never crossed our minds if otherwise. It would drive us to do things we would have never done if we did not have this sensational feeling. For example - The parents of a mentally challenged kid gave their lives trying to save thier kid(The kid was saved) from their car that tipped into a river. How on earth would some one do it? Give thyself sounds great to read in novels but in reality this is how its possible.
The few things I've learnt in trying situations to keep the love alive with my dears ones:-
"The Bottle Neck" - When there is pressure from every side the mentally tough ones survive while the others break! Bottle necks get us closer to people who matter and that is when you get to know the real person which might be totally opposite from the way they behave other times. The neck and the bottle breaks when reality strikes in such a case!
"Getting it right is not getting it done my way"
I guess I personally have faced a lot of situations to understand that there are multiple roads to a destination(which are as safe as my way, sometimes even safer/better) and many ways of getting a job done. I guess we can call this "The Control Freak" syndrome, when you feel - "Oh no, thats not how its supposed to be".
"Dont cry if you can fix it"
Many times I've seen people talk at lenght about what was in stake, what their dreams were and how their heavens came crashing down instead of thinking what next?
"If you cant compromise, dont ever step into a deal, you can never make a successful one!"
Any deal is a success as long as both parties have a feeling that they have got the better side of the field.
"The past is behind, do you want to stay there?"
I use this more recently when I think of all the great times I had, the people who were around and things I've lost!
"You can either learn or blame"
In any given situation there are two mutually exclusive events - Blame or Learn. Move on with what you got to know. If the cow you owned kicked you in the face there is no point in kicking it back in the face, next time wear a helmet and let the cow kick you once more, it'll break its leg if it tries to kick you another time!
"Do you know why?"
This keeps me on the lookout for bits and pieces of the puzzle that i rearrange to find out why someone says something rather than put too much focus on what he said. We dont mean what we say in tough situations.
"If somepushes you from behind, look before you act. It might just be a friend!"
There are times when the intial frustration drives us to act or react in haste. A Man retuned home to notice some noise in the first floor of his house, his wife was out, his daughter was staying at her friends place that night and hence he knew it was someone else. Blood rushes through his veins at the speed of a concorde, he gets his gun and watchfully heads upstairs. Just when he reached the door of room upstairs he saw the door open and he fired! He could not forgive himself for the rest of his life. His daughter had returned as her friend was not keeping well!:(
"I cant be right all the time, but I can atleast try"
I'm no perfect is something all of us know and love to embrace. We put all our short comings in there and get aways saying it. You can never stop being nice!
"The only rule in love is to break if there was any"
Expectations, rules, standards all lead to disappointments!
We are what we are, if we had to change for someone then we are not what we are and its not easy being someone else.
Hope you cling on to your loved ones, they keep us going. Happy Valentines Day!
Let go and you will know that what is yours will never leave!
